Aggie’s story

“Even ten years after my separation and subsequent divorce, I still felt stuck in the past. I hadn’t managed to move on and was still carrying around a lot of hurt, feelings of failure and feeling like my past was still controlling my present. Like I said to Claire, I felt like I was working really hard trying to row my boat forwards, but I still had an anchor in the ground stopping me making any headway.

My two major issues were a sense of ‘not being good enough’, (feeling a complete failure and that I would never recover), and a deep fear of being alone, coupled with a sense that I would always be alone, that there was nobody ‘out there’ for me.

I felt generally sad, overwhelmed and without a sense of hope for my future.

Claire’s process helped me identify where some of these feelings came from, acknowledging the past. She helped me take control of my feelings in a way I never thought possible, enabling me to choose what I take with me into the future and what I leave behind. Instead of feeling at the mercy of my past experiences - a victim - she helped me feel I was in charge and can choose what I take with me into the future. I was able to let go of old hurts, thoughts and beliefs that were not helping me.

I had some major epiphany moments during the coaching sessions. Claire helped me see that I already have a lot of the things I was ‘waiting for’. She helped me see my current situation with completely new eyes and appreciate what I have already in my life that is positive and good. I also saw that I have resources and power in myself.

She also helped me change my feelings about being “Alone” - this is something I have struggled with all my life. I was able to transform my feelings about being Alone, and now see it as a gift, not a problem. I realised that ‘the answer’ to my life does not lie in someone else, it lies in ME. That was a dramatic shift for me. The person I needed to meet was me. The person I needed to fall in love with was me. The person I needed to feel love from and give love to was me.

Now I feel calmer. More at peace. I feel OK. I have a big sense of hope. I have this picture that my future is like a puzzle and I’m getting to choose the pieces that go in it. It’s fun and exciting and full of hope!

I so enjoyed meeting Claire - we did all our sessions on-line as I’m in NZ and she’s in England! I can’t wait to meet her in person one day and give her a big hug. She was very skilful in her coaching - she listened in detail and reflected back to me what she heard, and made me feel that all the learning, resources and ideas were from me, she was able to direct and guide me to solve my own problems. The strategies she teaches are incredibly practical and useful, I have already applied what I learned to other situations in my life with great effect, so this is something that will continue to help me throughout my life.

I would highly recommend Claire. It would be hard to overstate the effect this process has had on me. It has been truly transformational and more than worth the investment in my future happiness.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart!”