George’s story

“When I first got in touch with Claire, I had been in a very toxic relationship which lasted on and off for 18 years. The relationship had broken down a long time ago in truth although we were still living together and going through the motions and pretence of being a couple. The relationship finally ended when my ex left me without telling me and I since learnt that she had got married to someone that she had had an affair with years before. I felt that my life had turned into a soap opera and was angry, embarrassed, confused, scared and utterly heart broken. I knew that there was no going back but the road ahead looked grim and terrifying, and my judgement and thought process about how to navigate towards the future seemed an almost impossible task.

My main challenges were to overcoming my anger, embarrassment and low self esteem, along with feeling scared about how the next few months were going to turn out. I was feeling incredibly low and my emotions were impacting my day to day functioning.

Claire helped me to identify my emotions and to understand them whilst also realising that I could take control of them.

There were many “aha” moments but the one which resonated with me the most were about values and accepting that I can only control my own behaviour and my own actions and there were “tools” that I could use in my own mind to make decisions that were best for me without emotion getting in the way.

The biggest shift for me has been thinking before reacting and being in control of my feelings and my emotions. I really didn’t know to do this before meeting Claire and using the techniques which she taught me to use has been an absolute eye opener and game changer for me.

I do not think that I would have got through the aftermath of the break up with my ex and the very tricky negotiations which followed that ultimately required legal assistance to come to a financial arrangement with my ex on the joint property that we owned together which also impacted a family member of mine who had a financial interest in our home too. If it wasn’t for Claire I would not have handled the situation in the way that I did and for that I am very grateful to Claire as I am really happy with the outcome and where I have got to today.

Without a doubt I would recommend Claire to anybody who is going through a difficult break up or divorce. She was non-judgemental and impartial during the coaching sessions and the focus was entirely about me and how to use coping mechanisms to navigate through the difficult times as well as looking towards the future and ultimately striving to be happy again.

After being coached by Claire you will find a pathway to navigate your way out of the low moods and negative emotions that you will be feeling when going through a difficult break up. I really cannot thank Claire enough for coaching me.”